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Taming your inner critic

Reading up on the article on "How to tame your inner critic" by Joel Almeida, is an interesting one to read, in simple words what to do when you become stressed and the setbacks you face leading to harsh self-criticism? (just ask any student during march madness!). 

I think everyone can relate to stress at some point in their life, stress doesn't have to be academic related it can be personal too. In chinese medicine they say that your heart doesn't just react with the typical emotion but to your body too, like the stomach and head. If your head health is not in a good place this can trigger your heart to feel this and your stomach as all three are linked (and no it doesnt mean your heart physically is going to give out!). 

But why and how does stress effect me? So when we get stressed and feel negative our 'can do' attitude diminishes and we think all hope is lost, and this channels negative energy and changes your brain activity, keeping your mood low and less motivated. Just reading up on some of these mentioned within the article is very interesting to read up on, especially from another perspective.

What can you do? Within the article the author mentions that self-care is a must! (I'm not a professional but yes, facemasks and skin routines are a form of self-care even for the lads too!)

From personal experience and surely anyone reading this knows we all get overwhelmed by some form of stress either it's from school, college or even trauma, it is possible to get your mindset turned around by taking it little by little. You might hear "don't stress it's fine" or "it's fine/grand" when it comes to answering about work when instead, should be asking for help to clarify which some may find it quite an anxious thing to ask.

With a little help and reassurance which some may need more than others to help get through a situation, that goes a long way and can help get the swing into a more positive motivation and release some amount of stress. 

Changing your fixed mindset

Leading onto the next article on "How your fixed mindset could be holding you back and how to change it" by Anna Kalsey-Sugg and Ann Arnold.

Self-criticism plays a factor in a fixed mindset, for example when we have a fixed mindset, we don't acknowledge our weaknessess for potential growth and therefore are left self-criticising ourselves. As stated in the article that both adults and children need to expect success and failures. This is 100% true, that not all should believe that if they fail that's it, not always true, you grow from mistakes. 

Another good example would be, since the world of workplaces are expanding with technology especially retail settings noe with automatic checkouts where customers de-tag and scan their own clothes and quick self-checkouts in supermarkets, alot of people would be afraid to go near them as they're "too techy" when infact, it's how the world of retail is going to be (I'd like to guess within 10years time). So instead of having a fixed mindset on already knowing you're not able to work something tech and knowing you'll fail, why not expand your growth, try it and maybe you'll succeed on the first go or will need a sales person to help to show you how. 

So bottom line, never be afraid to fail, as failure leads to success! (I'm sure that's on a teeshirt already)